Are you really there? Being here now is a choice.

Are you really there? Being here now is a choice.

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WERE REALLY PRESENT?

I often wonder about what we are becoming. We live in interesting times, constantly triggered by new technologies and information seeking our attention. Our phones have become an extension of our beings. In the midst of this, we seem to have become more at ease checking our social feeds than speaking or smiling to the person sitting next to us on the train. We portray moments of joy with friends and family, beautiful pictures of nature and travels and share inspirational quotes.

BUT ARE WE REALLY THERE WHEN WE LIVE ALL THESE AMAZING MOMENTS? Or are we focused on portraying that moment, portraying a life we are actually failing to live.

It just seems harder and harder for us to JUST BE AND BE HERE NOW.

A few weeks back, I attended the concert of Maroon 5 in Singapore and was reminded of how some of us may have lost track of who we truly are and what really matters in life.

I assumed we were all there for the same reason – enjoy the music and ambience – feel something special, maybe feel shivers or excitement from living it live.

Maybe I was wrong.

Maybe we were there to just record that moment in hope that we may get the best pic? or in hope that our social posts show off how happy we all were, what an amazing experience we were having.

BUT WERE WE REALLY THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE?

As soon as the band came on stage, all that could be seen were hundreds of hands stuck in the air trying to capture the moment while blocking out the actual band from everyone’s sight.

When my friends and I started dancing and having fun – we were frowned upon for disturbing people.

Half way through the concert, hundreds of people in the pit were turned towards the screens facing the exact opposite direction from the stage, actually turning their backs to the singer, ironically, the person they came to see in the first place.

WHEN DID WE FORGET WHAT IT MEANT TO JUST BE AND HAVE FUN?

What have we come to? We seem to be shortchanging ourselves – giving away our real lives in exchange for pictures and videos of what we think it should look like.

Would we not all be happier if we could just for a second enjoy that moment for that moment in itself.

BEING HERE NOW IS A CONSCIOUS CHOICE.

A choice that impacts the quality of the lives we live today.

A choice that determines your ability to truly feel.

A choice that makes all the difference between living fully and letting life pass you by.

And while I understand the attractions of our mobile phones and social networks I guess all I am saying is that sometimes we could all benefit from JUST BEING HERE NOW.

For that moment in time maybe we could:

DANCE OUR HEARTS OUT. FEEL THE BEAT.

EXPERIENCE THE JOY.

BE THE CHILD THAT WE ONCE WERE,
THE CHILD WHO KNEW HOW TO LIVE IN THE MOMENT.

AND MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, LIFE WOULD SURPRISE US AGAIN WITH ALL OF ITS JOYS.

BEING HERE NOW IS A CHOICE WE ALL HAVE.
ARE YOU REALLY THERE?

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The 5 minutes journey to higher consciousness.

The 5 minutes journey to higher consciousness.

I write a lot about the art of consciousness in my book and strongly believe that higher awareness and consciousness are the keys to unlocking so many beautiful things in our lives. 

Consciousness can be defined as our capability to understand and fully integrate the now and the being in this exact point in time.

It has been the center of many philosophies, spiritual practices and scientific research since the age of time. 

Research has even proven its benefits on the human brain and some schools in northern Europe have already made meditation a part of their curriculum, transforming the way we look at education today.

Whichever teachings you believe in or follow, consciousness is at the heart of living a life full of peace, joy and love.

We read about it, talk about it, go to yoga classes and meditation classes, detox centers and spiritual retreats all in an attempt to find peace and stability in our beings and lives, hoping to integrate it into our routine. Some of us can’t live without it, constantly learning and implementing new practices, others remain skeptical of its benefits, unclear of where to start, why they should and what they can get out of it. What worked for me might work for you. 

START SMALL AND MAKE IT A DAILY PRACTICE. 

When I started my journey I was aided by my two beautiful mentors. I had attended classes and retreats in the past but as soon as I got back to work and the pressures of daily life, I always left it aside within a couple of weeks. 

BUT THIS TIME IT WAS DIFFERENT. 

5 MINUTES A DAY IS ALL IT TOOK.

5 minutes a day when I made the conscious decision to take 5 minutes for myself, breathe and notice my being. 

  • Find a quiet place. Sit upright with your hands on your knees, facing upwards or downwards. Close your eyes. 
  • Breathe in and Breathe out and just focus on your breath. Feel your lungs fill up with air and breathe out. Stay still and just breathe.
  • Your mind may fight you for a while and the thoughts of a million things you need to do unravel in your head. It’s ok. Just breathe and say ‘ Thank you for watching out for me. Please come back to my breath now’.
  • Stay there and do this for as long as you need. Open you eyes and sit still for a while before you get back to business.

5 MINUTES A DAY IS ALL IT TAKES.

Like anything new, it is all about practice and consistency.

The benefits are limitless – you will feel calmer throughout the day and have a clearer picture of your priorities. You will feel a sense of self and alignment to your being that will allow you to cope better with your day. You will feel more energized to take on the day. It will become easier for you to calm your nerves down and see the bigger picture and so much more.

Raising our awareness is key to living a better, richer, more fulfilling life. Give yourself those 5 minutes a day and choose love over fear. Practise the art of being. Be. Here. Now. And just be.

Love.
Xxx
Steph.

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